My Future Husband...

I'm getting married to the most amazing man on earth...the type that wouldn't ask me "how many sexual partners I've had"...the type that would support my transparency & not be ashamed of my story...i've confessed my sins to God & reconciled with my past...I don't owe any man any explanation.

 My husband will have full confidence in me & i will bring him good all the days of my life... John 8vs7 when they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." 💕💕💕 My unknown future is in the hands of the all-knowing God..

5 Ways to Pray for Love (Before You Find It)

I came across this article online and I thought it was for me. I've never prayed about my love life. I feel like it's just too petty or insignificant but now i know talking to God about my love life is an important thing to do.

I ask God to guard my heart, protect my weaknesses but i just realized there's a lot more to commit to God.

Our desire for love can be so consuming and that explains why we need to spend sometime praying for our love life...yea the time we waste  worrying, analyzing and trying to figure things out.

 The five aspects of our love life we need to pray about

1. Trust

  The search for the right person to date is a huge one. We spend so much time asking ourselves questions..important questions like How would I know?  What would be the signs?  What if I chose the wrong person? What if I messed it up?  The best way to start praying for your love life–is to ask God to increase your trust.  Trust requires a shift in perspective–that allows God to carry the burden of the what-ifs and the unknowns.

2. For Healing

A lot of work has to be done here,

The work I’m talking about is the work of healing.  Insecurities, fears, anger, selfishness, and pride.  The list goes on and on.  This healing needs to take place in our actions and reactions to the world around us-and penetrate all the way into our hearts. We need to pray for more healing during our time as singles.Healing from sin, from struggles, and from temptations.

We need to be healed from a lot of things so we can enjoy a strong and healthy relationship,

3. For Wisdom

God grants wisdom to those who ask for it.  Wisdom to make good choices, to see right from wrong, and to live a life of responsibility.  I would have asked for wisdom to walk away from the open-doors that were harmful, and wisdom to be patient on the ones that seemed to be closed.  As you pray for love, ask God for wisdom- and then listen to what He says.

4. For Fulfillment

 When you are filled to the brim, it overflows into the lives of those around you.  When you’re not, you seek fulfillment from those around you.  So many times we wait for a relationship to fill us up- not realizing that it actually can’t.  Rather than living in the preoccupation of the holes in our lives -we need to ask God for fulfillment and joy during those difficult seasons. 

We should pray for God Himself to fill us up rather than ask Him to give us things to fill us with. 

True fulfillment comes from God and God alone.

5. For Love

Ask God for more of His love in your life. We all want so much to experience the love between a man and a woman but we can't love right if we don't love God. When you get a glimpse of God’s love in your life- you begin to recognize it in the people around you.  I would have been saved from so much heartache and pain if I could have understood what real love actually looked like and learned to give and receive that kind of love- the sacrificial, servant-hearted, selfless love of Jesus Christ.

When it comes to pouring your heart out to the Father in prayer- there is nothing too small for His reach.  We’re invited to talk to Him about every little detail of our lives and of our love lives.  He wants to hear, to listen, and to give us the desires of our heart. 

But more so, prayer is for us.  As much as God longs to give us the desires of our hearts–more so, He longs to change our hearts.  To make our hearts bigger, wiser, stronger. To make them more trusting, more peaceful, and most of all–more like His. 

I hope you find this helpful..please share with a friend.

Love..

Oye(DivineDiva)

Excerpts from truelovedates.com

You Can’t See What You Don’t First Believe

How often we tend to only believe things we can see. After all, "seeing is believing" as the often-used statement says. Vision that only touches the surface will bring limited results. The end result of what we see begins with what we choose to believe. Our physical sight is very limited but our ability to believe with our hearts and see with our minds is not.

Most everything that exists is a result of someone believing that it could. Dreams come true based on the choice we make to believe in the idea, the project or the concept that we want to become a reality. Much of life is based on believing strongly in something. "Walking by faith and not by sight" is easier said than done. To believe what we cannot now see requires us to remove the scales from our mental vision and the blocks that so often exists because of preconceived notions that are far from truth or reality.
Your mind is powerful. So powerful that it can envision where you want to go, who you want to be, and what you want to do long before you can see it and even if you're not currently in the best position. What we believe dictates our vision and causes what we envision to come to pass.

Too often, we give up when hard times come. When difficulties hit us in the face and adversities become our present reality, we tend to retreat instead of fight forward. Because we are not all-knowing and cannot see the future from our present vantage point, we sometimes make the fatal mistake of allowing what we cannot now see hinder us from believing it will one day come to pass. When we face the impossible, that is the time to start believing that it is possible. What we believe is always greater than what we can see.

Saint Augustine said, "Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you



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WALK AWAY..

It's hard to walk away, but you must! You have to make sure that you're not holding on out of ego. You have to be sure that you're not trying to raise an adult or change a person who is unwilling to change. It's not about you, it's about them. It's not that you're not worthy of love. It's that they aren't ready to learn how to love. You have to recognize that and be willing to walk away.
Sometimes it's the walking away part that makes a person change. If you've left before and it didn't influence them to change then the next time you leave it needs to be for good.
We waste so much unnecessary time trying to make love work. You have to be willing to admit when you didn't know love and you built on lust instead. You have to be willing to cut your losses, learn your lesson(s), and move on stronger and wiser. You can't force love and you shouldn't have to.
Love is a gift not a curse. Don't live a cursed life by trying to hold onto a lie. Evaluate your situation. If you know you've done all you can to make it work and it hasn't, let it go. Love is waiting for you but you can't attract it if you're still tied to a lie.
I pray you find the strength to leave if you know you need to leave!

source: www.TonyGaskins.com 

I want to abstain from Sex but He doesn't

A lot of Christian women are deciding to abstain from sex until marriage for many reasons. The problem comes in when trying to date men who are accustomed to having sex while in a relationship.

I have decided to start dating again while i maintain living by God's principle to save sex for marriage but i keep meeting men who are Christians but don't want to live by God's principles about sex. I think it's more difficult knowing I'm not a virgin but i believe a man will wait for anything or anyone he feels is worth it. There is a shift happening now and because of the state of relationships people are becoming more thoughtful about their actions.
Never compromise your beliefs to please a man...actually it's more like Never compromise your relationship with God to please a man.The man who is for you will respect you and will wait for you.
I recommend doing it God's way. That's where the blessings are and less stress is there. Some women say they have sex because they want to. No, you're having sex because you've been conditioned and programmed to have sex to keep and to please a man. So you give a boyfriend the benefits of a husband and claim that it's all your idea.
If a man leaves you for having standards, let him leave. If a man can't see the bigger picture, he's still a grown boy and will probably cause you more pain and stress than peace and happiness.Has marriage worked even when the couple had sex while dating? Yes! Does that mean it's right? No! Sex keeps no man!!
I started talking to someone recently, he had some of the qualities of what i wanted in my man but he definitely can't wait or isn't willing to wait.
Build your relationship on friendship, not sex. If sex couldn't be part of your relationship, would it still work? If one of you had a stroke and couldn't have sex anymore, would there still be love? If one of you has a surgery or is hospitalized and you couldn't have sex, would there be infidelity? A lot of men even cheat on their woman while she's pregnant. That's because the relationship was built on lust and sex, not love and friendship. So my message to you is; if your legs are closed, keep them closed. If your legs are open, close them.
Do something out of the norm and build a relationship on friendship. Let the lust build and fulfill it when you give the woman a commitment until death do you part. Be the man and take the lead; and lead with love. Let it be your idea to wait until marriage for sex instead of being forced into it by her. You won't die without having sex. What you will gain is self-control, self-respect, focus, will-power, determination, strength, and so much more.

Challenge yourself and Grow through it because you're worth the wait.

Cheers...

Ready For Love?

A lot of us aren't far from being ready for love, but there are some areas that we may need to work on first. 
If you're like me that's had more taste of toxic relationships that good ones, i'll recommend you take note of the points listed below. I'm glad that my perspective on relationships has changed a whole lot after i found Christ but it doesn't change the fact that i'm still afraid of making a wrong choice.
We are in age where people live their lives based on reality (negative realities) instead of facts (Godly facts).
For every time I've had to reflect on my past relationships, i realize  i made those choices. No one forced me, i was dating at the level of my self esteem then but now i know better and i can boldly say that relationships don't have to be sour.
I have friends that now tell me i have unrealistic standards but i still do not plan for less. An healthy relationship isn't always perfect but yea very productive.

"We can't help who we are attracted to but we can help who we choose to be with."

In relationships, there’s no such thing as achieving perfection, but it’s important to have a healthy perspective of where you came from, who you are, and where you’re going. Be open to getting to know yourself as best as you can, because it will set the stage for success in your future relationships. Take some time to set your priorities and get your expectations on track understanding what a relationship can and can’t do. You may have some fears, and the truth is, relationships can be risky- but open your heart to trusting God and seeking His good plan for your life. Invite Him to be a part of your love and relationships by connecting with Him every step of the way. Healthy relationships are learned, so invest a lot of time in the friendship stage and keep working on the actions of love by learning healthy communication. Be sure to understand and apply the importance of emotional and physical boundaries, and remember that good relationships aren't just found- they are chosen. Seek to make good choices.

"While it’s true we are in the world but are not of the world, even the strongest Christian single needs a little help to survive the daily grind sometimes. Gain insights on all the things required to help you endure the nuances of daily living."

Love,
Oye (DivineDiva)

Unequally yoked ?

When you meet an incredibly good-looking guy/lady, you both feel the attraction building up but he/she is not SAVED and the bible has clearly stated that "we shouldn't be unequally yoked"....RED FLAG!
As a believer, you know there are somethings you need to leave behind and dating an unsaved person can cause you further distraction leading to stagnancy in your spiritual life. Well, i asked this question on my instagram page and i was able to get a few followers contribute...i hope this helps someone struggling with this...read what they had to say below

@mojicoker: he can be good looking and everything , there might be some other form of attraction, but if he ain't saved then there'e no say, lol. Be not unequally yoked with an unbeliever, it's plainly stated. If he's a church goer that hasn't recieved Jesus as his Lord and Saviour there's still no point. For what as light got to do with darness. 
Don't think you will be changing him because that's not your place, only God can change a person but we deceive ourselves that we can. 
To avoid heartache, heartbreak and a distrusted destiny DO NOT COMPROMISE! God's word is enough..DO NOT BE UNEQUALLY YOKED with an UNBELIEVER. #Nuffsaid

@mzhotnfab: it's hard but you have to let go because in truth, he doesn't have the same PRINCIPLES and beliefs...except two WORK and WALK together.

do u see what i see? tell me

@bayobells: if sh's not saved, you're likely to be unsaved soon because you will struggle a great deal with moderation and values. Heaven ain't sure for the family..What's more fufilling tahn seeing every single member of your family in heaven.

@parcelmouth: I'm the wrongest to answer the question..why? because i don't get attracted to the unsaved being Christian is the first task force of attraction in my case

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Love,
Oye (DivineDiva)