SO you found out that he cheated. You are angry and can't wait to get your hands on that man stealer! You still feel it is her fault why your man strayed, especially since she has been trying for a long time to win him over. However, it's important that you keep your cool in order to avoid embarrassing yourself and giving her the upper hand. Below are things you should never do to get back at the other woman.
Don't get into a cat fight
This happens oh too often. In fact, it only strokes some men's egos when they see women fighting over them. So never, ever, assault the woman for your man's indiscretions. If she approaches you seeking to knock you out, walk away. If she decides to throw the first blow, you have the law on your side if you defend yourself.
Don't call her workplace
Don't invade her workspace by calling or going there to cuss her out as it could make you look desperate and insecure. Calling her office and letting everyone know she has stolen your man will look bad on both of you.
Don't call or text her
Sending text messages and calling incessantly doesn't cut it. In fact it only makes the other woman feel she is in control of the situation. She will simply have a good laugh at your expense. No amount of phone calls or text messages are going to change her mind anyway. Take the matter up with your man. Don't let her think you are a psychopath who can't let go.
Don't get too emotional.
Women handle break-ups a lot differently from men. They are more emotional. It's a good time to remember that men really don't like the drama. Lay off the melodramatics and handle the break-up with grace and dignity. It's not as easy as it sounds, but you will score more points if you stay away from her. Let both of them see that you are above them.
Finally take the matter to God!
Prayer works wonders. Always remember the devil is out there seriously trying to destroy marriages. Please ladies be sensitive!
By: Nkechi Harry Ngonadi (Mrs)
