Though It May Tarry....Part1

Hello Readers,

It's the season of love and  the "though it may tarry" series on the blog will be running for one week.

This series is specially aimed at encouraging anyone that has given up on true love.

I haven't found love yet but i'm hopeful that it will come even though it tarries...

Ladies, there are some good men out there and of course to the gents, there are loads of awesome ladies out there.

Please enjoy our first love story...

  

THE STORY

"When God brings your mate, it is a COMPLETE PACKAGE!!!!"

Every instruction in the bible by God was designed for our benefit if only we trust Him enough to adhere to it.

He said "seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all other things will be added unto you". Oh yes!!! I can boldly say that this found fulfillment in my life.

I met my Yodeh(as I fondly call him ) when I was not particularly keen about being in a relationship.

Shortly before I met him, I was at a challenging phase in my life and rather than allow the wallowing away in pity & depression, I held on to God's promises and continually served Him faithfully (thank God for a Christian home)

Guess what ''Oba Ara'' (meaning Ling of Wonders i.e God) did, He did not only resolve my deepest worries, He gave me all good-things and still blessed me with this TALL, DARK and HANDSOME man ( you know the ideal man qualities in mills and boons "wink") that loves God so much.

He gave me peace in human form and I recall hearing this voice that said to me on several occasions ''I have given you peace round about'' when I met Mr. Yodeh. And gratefully, that's all I have experienced since I met him.

Oh my Yodeh looks at me and reminds me of how beautiful I look; sometimes I assume he exaggerates alot lol. 
But anyways I choose to believe him because of the saying that goes "you are not beautiful until you believe you are. So me sef have been feeling like a fine geh since we met. Lol

He looks at challenges and makes them look like nothing constantly reminding me of God's Word in every situation.

What a great joy to have a man who not only prays for me, intercedes on my behalf and even sow seeds for me.

Indeed, i feel REST because even through challenging times, we have God on our side to see us through.

I know I deserve the best but Mr. Yodeh simply blows my mind away over and over again, God certainly went over and above to give me a man like him.

I have forgotten about my pains, I have forgotten about the heartaches simply because I sought the face of God.

This little piece is to encourage every lady out there that feels the sense of neglect is a norm or that thinks there is no good man out there. You are God's masterpiece and His plan is to give you nothing but the best if only you will seek first His kingdom.

Don't settle for less, believe in yourself and know you are to be celebrated and not tolerated. Stop helping God !!

In conclusion, I consider it necessary to remind my pastor, my best friend (Mr Yodeh) how much I love him. You know how difficult finding an undefiled man could be...*wink*

Thank you for the many sacrifice and giving love a new definition.

We found love through His word and that's why He is the foundation of this beautiful beginning.

Chai love has made me romantic oooo😎🙈😘l

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Happy Valentine's day

Love,

Oye Ajakaiye

Women Need to Stop Asking What Men Want

Isn't it funny that there are women from all different parts of the world typing this questions into Google, wondering what men want– desperately trying to get into their brains.

We long to be seen, and to be known.  We long for someone to tell us that we’re important, that we mean something. 

I remember many points in my life, stepping out into the world hoping for one thing: to be noticed by the opposite sex.  It’s was as though their noticing would give me some sense of validity, some sense of meaning, some sense of purpose.

Often times, it’s those very longings that lead us into the arms of a relationship especially the wrong ones, because we don’t know where else to turn.  It’s those very moments that create women who are hungry to know–not who they are, but what men want them to be. We need to understand that we were not created to "satisfy" but to "complete."

I empathize with women who are living their lives for the validation of the men around them.  I empathize, because as a woman, there have been moments in my life that I’ve been there too....:

Sometimes, we can search so hard for love that we lose ourselves in the process.  Sometimes, we can get so caught up with looking out, that we forget to look in.

More than anything, being empowered women means that we learn who we are standing alone.  A woman who knows herself and understands her God-given identity has no need to be defined by the men in her life or the relationship she finds herself in, because her worth is rooted in something far more noble and far more valuable.

Maybe it’s time we stop asking what men want from us, and learn to answer the question of what God wants from us, and begin to discover who we are and what we want for ourselves.

What do you want? When you discover who you are, know what you stand for and understand the reason for your existence, you will stop trying to figure out what men want.

It’s time to contribute to a new culture, creating a trend of women who are freed to experience and engage in  love: a love that starts from the inside out.

TLD..

He's My Soulmate On All Levels ~ Lolade

   I am always excited to bring to you amazing match made in heaven stories. There's nothing as beautiful as a God fearing man hooking up with a God fearing Lady.

  Niyi attends my church (myjoshuaville), i see how commited and dedicated he is serving God and i often wonder how a good looking guy like him handles it. Lolade on the other hand is a fashionista i admire from a distance, i didn't know herself and Niyi were dating until a few weeks before Niyi proposed in church.....

Read their story and i hope you learn something from it....

MMIH: How did you meet Niyi? Tell us about your match made in heaven story.

Lolade: I met Niyi in 2005 when I was in secondary school. However, the truth is that even though Niyi  and I have not been together for long, it feels like we have known each other all along. (And I’m not saying it in some teen-girl-fantasy way; I’m saying it in a matter-of-fact fashion.) We may well have been lovers or deeply connected in our past lives, because our connection transcends beyond any connection I’ve ever known or imagined possible.

I’m excited to share my love story because I want to inspire all of you who are seeking love or are yet to find love. Regardless of whether you are single or attached, I hope my/our story will give you hope about love. I never knew that such a perfect man like Niyi exists, much less wind up to be my life partner. 

If “soulmates” mean 2 souls having an unexplainable affinity for each other be it mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually, then that’s what Niyi and I are to each other — soulmates, on all levels.

MMIH: What got you attracted to Niyi?

  

Lolade: Hmmmm well , to be honest .He has the Fear Of God  and of course' He is too handsome... 😁😁🙈🙈

MMIH: How long did you guys date for?

 

Lolade: We have been friends for 10years and been dating for one year five months before he finally asked me to be his wife on the 11th of october 2015.

MMIH: What differentiates Niyi from any guy you've ever dated?

Lolade: Hmmmmm hmmm..Everything!!! First of all, God fearing, Loving , Caring, Romantic and I will add persistent and never gives up ( because I'm very stubborn.....)

MMIH: Has there been any challenges? If yes...share the most challenging experience...

 

Lolade: Challenges ehen ..Funny ones ooo hope you don't mind if I share .Well I won't say challenges. 

Most times the challenges are His likes against my Dislikes and vice versa.

One is I am a night crawler( I don't sleep early ) aaaah Niyi is the opposite ooo he doesn't joke with his sleep at night and that is the only time to communicate better because of our demanding jobs during the day . It was a major challenge though but we have been able to work around it by making sure despite our tight schedule at work we communicate with each other and in traffic that when we get to talk at night , we don't have much to say.

MMIH: Niyi is a very fine man,how do you manage his fenale fans..has he ever given you any reason to doubt his love for you?

Lolade: yeee !!! Good question. I really don't let that bother me. I agree he is an handsome irresistible guy. He would definitely have a lot of female fans and those i get to meet, i make them my friends & those that  i don't get to meet and won't let him be (i pray about it ) it's as simple as that!

No !  No !No! he has never given meany  reason to doubt his love for me. He is a God fearing man, honest and trustworthy.

MMIH: Some people belive Godly relationsips are boring, how do you guys spice up your relationship.

Lolade: Godly relationship boring ke? No it's Not .hmmmm Alot ooo, beach , movies , Games  & other outdoor events.

MMIH: So, lets talk about sex...whats your take on premarital sex?

Lolade: it's a no no

MMIH: Do you guys have any particular boundaries or aren't you bothered about getting physical?

Lolade: it's difficult but i hold on to Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled:but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."

MMIH: Thank you for your time Lolade...any advice for single ladies like waiting on God for their man of faith & lover?

Lolade: my advice to single ladies is that they should  hold on to this scripture Isaiah 30:18 "And therefore will the Lord wait, that he may be gracious unto you, and therefore will he be exalted, that he may have mercy upon you: for the Lord is a God of judgment: blessed are all they that wait for him."

Do not engage in fornication no matter the temptation. In addition, get close to God first:that man of faith will come and if a man doesn't fall on his knees in prayer, he doesn't deserve to fall to one knee with a ring.

NB: MMIH means (matchmadeinheaven)

I Broke My Abstinence Vow~ How Far Is Too Far?

I Broke My Vow Continuation....

I know a lot of you read my last post and have tagged Ade a bad character in your mind but the truth is i went foo far! The bible has warned us not to be "unequally yoked with unbelievers" Ade was a Christian but not a God chaser. 

I made up my mind to save sex until marriage but some part of me still thought it was okay to kiss,cuddle and maybe grind (allow me...). I knew purity wasn't just about not having sex but i still thought it was okay to get physical and this made me lead Ade on. I knew sleeping over at Ade's wasn't a smart move but the thought of "spicing it up a little" failed me.

As dating christian singles I wonder how far we should go sexually. 

I get that God asks us to save sex until our wedding day, but even in a dating relationship, i know sex isn’t the only line to consider.

Some of you have decided not to kiss until marriage. Others think kissing is okay. Some of you have said you will only hold hands. Others choose a different line. Some of you have realized you’ve gone too far physically only after the damage has been done. That’s why I think it’s wise to know how far you’re willing to go long before you ever have the opportunity to act. But … how far is too far?

Consider these principles checkpoints on the path to purity. If the level of your physical activity in your dating relationship allows you to stick to these principles, you have strong boundaries in place. If the level of physical contact in your relationship violates even one of these principles, you’ve probably gone too far.

Whatever 

Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”

The question you should be asking is not “How far can we go without getting into trouble?” but “What can we do to think about things that are pure and honorable?”

Can you hold hands, kiss, make out, hug and think thoughts that are pure and honorable? At some point your actions will cause your thoughts to shift away from what is pure and honorable and true and toward a desire for increased sexual contact. We can't decide where out line is after our thoughts have switched to the impure. We need to plan ahead of time how far wevthink we can go and still keep our thoughts fixed on the things of God.

     Ephesians 5:3 says, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people” (NIV).

This passage tells us not to even hint at sexual sin and we will be doing the opposite when we spend hours passionately kissing on our boyfriend’s couch leaving each other wanting more and more physical contact. If you are hinting at sex, you’re going too far!!!

If purity is your goal, make a commitment to never cause another person to want to go all the way. Always consider whether your actions might cause your boyfriend to want to become more physically involved. Filter what you see on dates (movies, videos, TV shows), what you do when you’re together, how you relate to each other, how you touch … everything you do!

Don’t Light the Fire like i did with Ade. God didn’t just list a bunch of rules for physical behavior before marriage in His Word. He did something better by giving us principles in His Word that we can apply to our relationships. I can’t tell you exactly how far is too far, but any physical contact made that leaves you wanting some more isn't PURE.

    Mark 14:38 "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak."

Can You Pay The Price?

1. She met him at a Motor Park

2. She was a university student - GREAT IFE

while he was only a Polytechnic student in

Kwara Poly (Remember the discrimination) – she could have snubbed him - but she responded.

3. His friends complained that he was

carrying Christianity too zealously as if he

was the only Christian - she became zealous

too.

4. He took her to church in 1976 and made

her sign an agreement (SAILING UNDER

SEALED ORDERS) to marry and follow him whether he becomes blind, lame or

handicapped… she signed.

5. Just before he married her, he told her

God had sent him to LIBERATE THE Worlds (while he was still hopping between jobs)

and went on to resign his job; his elder

brother lambasted him, she stuck to him.

6. He told her God had shown him the key

to prosperity - she believed.

7. He told her they would build a 50,000

capacity tent and preach the gospel from

private jets - she believed her dreamer lover.

8. He was too ‘buoyant’ to afford a hotel

room on his wedding eve, he slept in his

rickety Volkswagen beetle – she married

him.

9. During a moment of insane faith, he

ordered a mad man to be put in his car

alone with her while she was pregnant; she

remained.

10. She saw she was dripping blood while

pregnant and explained to him that she had

a miscarriage, he shouted “It CANNOT

Happen, can I have my food please” – she

served him food.

11. She just had their first baby and there

was no food or money at home. He refused

to borrow or ask or take from church

money and they were drinking/eating

“CERELAC Baby food’ for 3 days – she ate

with him.

12. She came to church one day and saw

him so excited with few members while

waiting for service to start; he explained to

her that service was actually over – she

laughed.

13. People kept praying for her and her

husband as they seemed to be crazy and

needed deliverance-she kept faith.

14. He announced a new Bible school and

she knew there was no facility; she asked

him and he replied “Is it your school”? She

kept quiet.

BUT SHE DIDN'T KNOW…

15. She didn't know they were going to be

flying in customized jets round the world.

16. She didn’t know he would pastor and

she, co-pastor the largest church auditorium in the world.

17. She didn’t know he would be a father to millions all over the world.

18. She didn’t know he would be hosted by

Presidents and Heads of States of nations.

19. She didn’t know he would be a

Chancellor and Pioneer of one of the best

Private Universities in the world…..and

others.

20. She woke up one day on her sick bed in the USA and unexpectedly saw her hubby who had flown in quietly from Nigeria and had refused to wake her up…..he was kneeling on the floor by her legs and crying ‘Lord, heal her and prove that you sent me”- She got healed miraculously…more than once!

All she saw was a Man with A BIG GOD

inside him.

21. She said to her husband 'Honey,we need to change the school of this children'. The school is no longer what it used to be.

Parents are complaining and they aren't

doing anything about it. Her husband

Bishop David Oyedepo responded: Why?

No! She never altered a word after that. She went back to God on her kneels in Prayers.

She prayed: God touch the heart of your son who is my husband. You alone understand this present situation. Let him see reasons with what I am saying. Not up to a day,her husband the Bishop said to her: Honey,that reminds me.

You made mention of we changing the children's school,how far have

you gone with it? This was a man that said why? no earlier on. She never argued with him but rather went back to her God. Her name is FAITH: Pastor (Mrs) Faith Oyedepo.

Here is a question for the ladies:

Can you pay the Price Ladies???

Chapter 1: Lady Of Reckless Abandonment

Have you assumed that your ultimate fulfillment would be found in marriage? Have you privately entertained the notion that the only satisfied women are married women? Have you been expecting yiur career to satisfy you until you are married? If you have answered "yes" to any of these questions, then you have a prospect of diillusionment looming in the future.

     "A woman is not born a woman. Nor does she become one when she marries a man, bears a child and does their dirty linen, not even when she joins a women's liberation movement. A woman becomes a woman when she becomes what God wants her to be."

Too many Christian women think that thebiner longings of their heart relate only to love, marriage, and motherhood. If we look closer, we will see that it's a longing ultimately for Jesus. According to Gary chapman "marriage is not a higher calling than the single state. Happiness is not found in marriage but in a tight relationship with God." Fulfillment for a Christian woman begins with the Lordship of Christ in every area of her life.

The secret to becoming a Lady Of Reckless Abandonment is to understand that No one, not even the man you will amrry one day eill make you happy- only Jesus can.

We can arise above this stereotype by renewing our mind.

We can be an exception through understanding "the secret of the alabaster box"

The Secret Of The Alabaster Box~~

This is about giving our ALL to our heavenly Bridegroom (see Mark 14:3-9, Luke 7:37, Mathew 26:14, Luke1:38)

The woman in Mark 14 although described as a sinner, had dreams and wisely broke her alabaster box in the presence of the only One who can make a woman's dream come true.

Have you been holding on tighltly to your alabaster box? Take your alabaster box to Jesus and break it in His presence because He is worthy of such honour. When Jesus is your Lord, you can joyfully walk in the path of life that He has for you.

Ruth's Reckless Abandonment

We are all familiar with the storybof Ruth. The young widow who made a critical decision to turn her back on her people, her country, and her gods because her thirsty soul had tasted the God of Israel. She recklessly abandoned herself to the only true God. She willingly broke her alabaster box and folloed God wherever He would lead her. She made a New friend (Naomi) becaue she knew she would not be able to grow closer to God if she remained among the Moabites (Her people).

Ruth  relocated in order to be fed spiritually. We are to look for something that will stimulate our growth in the Lord. Ruth had to forsake the familiar and comfortable to receieve God's best forbher life. She also moved from a false religion into the only true and eternal relationship.

 Ruth's choice was costly but the return on this high price far outweighedbher investment.

A career, a marriage, or even motherhood is not enough to totally satisfy us by itself. God knows that we will never be complete until we really understand that we are complete in Jesus. A woman not conplete in Jesus will be a drain on her husband. Such a eoman will expect her husband to fill the gap that only Jesus can fill. Only the single woman who understands this means of being complete in Jesus is mature enough to be a helpmeet.

Colossians 2:9-10Amplified Bible (AMP)

"For in Him all the fullness of Deity (the Godhead) dwells in bodily form [completely expressing the divine essence of God]. And in Him you have been made complete [achieving spiritual stature through Christ], and He is the head over all rule and authority [of every angelic and earthly power].

Also see Psalm73:28a....

Becoming a Lady in Waiting begins with reckless abandonment to Jesus. the strength and discipline necessary to be a Lady of Diligence, Faith, Virtue, Devotion, Purity, Security, Contentment, Conviction, and Patience is discovered in the radical way of relating to our heavenly Bridegroom.

"Marriage teaches us that even the not intimate human companionship canoy satisfy the deepest places of the heart. Our hearts are lonely till they reat in Him." ~~ Elisabeth Elliot.

Chapter 2: Lady of Diligence review will be up soon. Stay glued and share with a friend!

Love,

Oye( DivineDiva)

What makes you a wife material?

Have you ever wondered what guys are looking for in a wife? 

Or maybe you’re a man, and you’ve dated a few women, but never felt like someone was “marriage material”. I think you may find this piece helpful.

John Fileta points out three traits she found in his wife Debra that won his heart. 

Compassion: Nothing melts a man’s heart more than a woman who exudes love and compassion for others. According to John, first weekend met his wife Deb, the one thing that stuck out to him was how big her heart was. (Though he thought she was unbelievably gorgeous, which is also a plus…). She wasn’t just talking the talk, she was living it out. 

The reason compassion is so attractive to a man, is because true compassion stems directly from the heart of Christ. When God’s love fills a person, that love begins to overflow into all areas of their life and impact those around them. Compassion was something that stood out to John in his wife-to-be, because it wasn’t a love that was being given in order to receive, it was a supernatural love that was being given freely because of what Jesus had done in her life. That, in and of itself, spoke volumes to the kind of wife she would one day be.

Direction: We’re all traveling through the journey of life, and it’s our hope that one day someone will be journeying by our side. But the thing is, the person who ends up next to you has a huge impact on the direction your life will take. A key quality to being marriage material is a woman who has direction. 

Direction doesn’t necessarily mean that she is going to be a neurosurgeon or big-shot attorney, and isn’t synonymous with how much money she is going to make or how successful she will be. Direction is when a person realizes their God-given talent and purpose in life and begins to run in that direction with all their heart. When He met Deb, she was in graduate school for counseling. He knew almost nothing about the field. But as she talked about it, He could see the excitement and passion in her eyes. He has so much respect and appreciation for what she does because he's seen the huge impact she makes one life at a time. 

The important thing to note about direction is that it goes above and beyond your career. It’s about understanding what God has gifted you to do, and then doing it well: whether that be your career, your ministry, or your relationships. 

Confidence: There is nothing more attractive than a woman who is secure in who she is and knows her value. I think one of the biggest problems today facing women is an identity crisis perpetuated by the media, movies, and the entire entertainment industry. But the most beautiful thing a woman can be is wrapped up in the understanding of her intrinsic value, a God-given value that can’t be taken away. There is something undeniably attractive about that, because let’s be honest, it’s rare. All these photo-shopped images of women that we see all around us are actually so far removed from the very things that a GODLY man finds attractive. It’s my hope that more and more women would realize that they are beautiful simply because they are made in God’s image: mind, body, and spirit- and then begin to live out that beauty. 

Side note to the men: Don’t fall into the lies of pornography, or thinking that a woman is beautiful simply because she falls under the standards of society. That beauty is truly only skin deep, and won’t survive a life-time of ups and downs in marriage and raising children. 

The first time John actually met Deb, He thought she was one of the most beautiful women He had ever met and was undeniably attracted to her. But though her external beauty caught his eye, it was her internal beauty and identity in Christ that won his heart. “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised….”

To all of you men looking for a woman who is marriage material, or for the women who are trying to become it – remember this: becoming marriage material is so much more than simply trying to get married. Ultimately, it’s about becoming all that God has called you to be.

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Waiting on God?

"Seek ye first, the Kingdom of God and every other thing will be added unto you"

This is one of my favorite bible verse and it applies to this beautiful matchmade in heaven story you're about to read.

The bride "Yinka" was my course mate in Bowen University, we graduated same year. We can both pass for one of the naughty ones in our set...lol

I was happy for Yinka when i saw a picture of her engagement of instagram. ...i wasn't only happy that she was enagaged, i was happy that a Godly man found her...

There's a lot to be learnt from Yinka's story especially for the Ladies.

HER STORY...

I've had a few serious relationships and a few unserious relationships but they all ended up really bad, no matter how hard I loved or trusted someone they just ended taking me for granted and hurting me from dangerous lies, cheating, disrespecting etc they made me look down on myself sometimes... I always thought it was my fault, like there was something wrong with me or God was punishing me for something. At some point I said to myself 'No More' I was no longer interested in any kind of serious relationship, I wanted to be free. During this 'me' time I discovered a lot of things about myself, relationships and life, I also got closer to God, I discovered 'BIBLE SECRETS' , I read books started making friends with d right people. At this time there was serious pressure on me to get married or atleast bring a man home but I wasn't in a hurry because I made a deal with God that he will choose my husband and bring him to me and I stood on it and did not worry about it... One day a Christian mother in my office sent for me and asked why Richard and I don't talk and insisted we started talking. I was like 'Ahh just like that, of all the people in this office why him' but I had to obey her, she's a woman of God and an elderly person. That's how we started talking oo there was no attraction no spark nothing but according to him he knew he had to marry me but I kept saying he's not my type... May this 'not my type' put many ladies in trouble' because all d other guys that  kept hurting me were 'my type' n here I had an excellent, gentle, God fearing, hard working man that wanted to love me n I was saying 'not my type'. I was not nice to him at all but he stayed loving me n refused to go oo... I decided to get close to him n it's just been d best decision thing ever, he made me love myself even more, he inspires me, puts me 1st, he prays with n for me everyday, I am not exaggerating I've been so happy n I just started shining n glowing anyhow lol n he never tried to touch me... I have a past, I've done things I'm not proud of, I've dated horrible mean guys but God thinks I'm worthy of his grace because I turned to him n he put lines in pleasant places for me, he broke protocols for my sake. Today I am Mrs Richard Ogundare *whoop whoop*

He makes ALL things beautuful in His time....❤️

Healthy People Make Healthy Relationship..

I’m getting sick and tired of our culture’s attempt to fix “marriages” across our country, without actually fixing individuals first. Marriages are suffering because the individual people within those marriages are broken, bruised, and in need of healing. I like to remind people that the only way to create a healthy relationship, is to become healthy standing alone.

We bring all our baggage and our junk into marriage, and then we’re surprised when it rears it’s ugly head. But I can guarantee you that all your junk will be multiplied and magnified within the pressure cooker of marriage. Christians, let’s not be naive- the very things you struggle with while standing alone, will be the very things you eventually struggle with in the context of your marriage. 100% of the time. Whether you are single, married, or somewhere in between, there is no better time than this to look inward and allow God to open your eyes to the things you need to work out in your life – and then to actually do something about it.

Love,

@iamdivinediva1

She got a ring without giving her thing 💍💍💍

@breefree shared her purity testimony on instagram and being a purity ambasaddor, i thought it would be nice to encourage someone. Just so we're clear "everyone is not doing it"! It's possible to have the man of your dreams without sex! As women it's a natural thing for us to want to please our men in every way but is it right? Just because something is easy doesn't mean it's right! We must take a stand & do what's right! If he can't wait for you then HE's not worth it! Know who & whose you are before you allow someone else to define you! Your worth is far above rubies darling! If you know you can't handle being alone after 9, take your cute little self HOME! Why would he buy the car if he can test drive it at will? You're worth waiting for ❤️

  When you know who you are in Christ, settling for an ungodly relationship wouldn't be an option.

Love,

Oye..💗💗

CLINGING vs LOVING...

Have you ever read a book & it made you cry?

Well, I'm reading "Woman, thou art loosed!" By @bishopjakes thanks my Mentor to @nhn_couture. 

I will be sharing daily tips from this life changing book! ******************************************************

Avoid addictive, obsessive relationship!  One of the first things that a hurting person needs to do is break the habit of using other people as a narcotic to numb the dull aching of an inner void.

Clinging to people is different from loving them..... #womanthouartloosed #divinediva #truelove #emotionalhealing #speakup #prayup

Tsean2015....Getting Ready

We are getting ready for the part1 of this Godly Union.

I was present at the pre-wedding shoot & believe me, all these lovely pictures where taken after the photographer (Jidekola) told them to just go ahead and be in Love.

Seun was all smiles...He looked like he had won himself a trophy...😊

  My advice to the young single ladies out there & myself...Make sure the man of your dreams understand the deepness of having a relationship with God! Trust me, you can tell the difference...

Seek God first & every other thing (including your right partner) will be added unto you! Go ahead and be in love.

Congrats guys!!

Tope (bride to be), OyeDivineDiva & Tolls (makeup artist) ❤️❤️❤️

I'm Afraid of Dating....👀

Is it wrong that as a Christian single girl i am suddenly afraid of dating?

I know i've had a taste of emotional abuse and been in a couple of unhealthy relationships but can this be the reason behind my sudden fear of Dating.

 Two years ago, i repressed my desire for dating and relationships with the opposite sex and decided to Focus more on myself & Jesus. I'm still waiting but lately I've been feeling like i'm good to go except for the fear of failing, making mistakes or not meeting my ideal Godly guy.

  This is not me being negative so don't even try judging me. The truth is the world of dating can be very hard to navigate for Christians. Dating to me before was a feel-good, romantic, emotionally-driven, sexual experience. The foundation of my previous relationships was based on pleasure & passion thereby embracing lust but my orientation now is different & it appears to be more difficult than Normal.

  I know that  God never intends for myself & other Christian singles to live in fear, but rather in faith. His word reminds us that Perfect love casts out fear so as Children of God we have been given all the wisdom we need to live by faith!

 Well? I've decided  it's time to stop freaking out about dating and see it as an opportunity for growth, insight, and right relationships. 

I've finally come to terms with the reality that dating is not the enemy but instead my fears and insecurities.

 I've decided to relax a little, and trust God to lead me into the right relationship one step at a time.

  If we are following God's leading, waiting for His peace, and trusting the internal wisdom He's given us-one step at a time will always lead us into the right direction or guide us out of the wrong direction. We don't even have any business with knowing if they're "the one" as long as we're in tune with the prince of peace.

Do not compromise your relationship with God , engage in relationships that are mutually edifying, encouraging & uplifting. When you eventually meet "the one" make sure you see dating as Just another means to Glorify God.

(Make sure you share with a friend)

Love,

Oye (DivineDiva

T.D Jakes Celebrates Wife on anniversary❤️

Pastor Bishop T.D Jakes took to his instagram page to appreciate wife as they celebrate 33 years of marriage.

He said "Throughout all the ups and downs, we've always had each other's back"

Serita Jakes, the wife of the megachurch pastor has revealed in the past that she made the first move to pursue her husband.

 She admitted that she started pursuing her husband as a secret admirer before she was finakly introduced to him bu her Pastor's wife.

 Mrs Jakes is known for sharing the story of the humble beginnings she and her husband endured before they became leaders of a 30,000 member Congregration. Their story is another to emulate as she emphasizes on the importance of respecting humble beginnings.

 We pray that they live to celebrate more Glorious years together in Love.

Cheers..

PICTURE OF THE DAY..

Do you know the difference?

Touré Roberts and Sarah Jakes on Love, Purpose, Relationships and Destiny

Must watch....share with a friend!!

'Love More Purely, Listen to Holy Spirit' Tina Campbell & Husband share 2015 Relationship Goals

International Gospel artist Tina Campbell of "Mary Mary' and her husband Teddy have been able to mend their marital issue in 2014 and now the Kingdom star and husband are sharing some of their relationship goals for 2015.
The couple posted this on their joint instagram account.

For 2015 love more purely, give the understanding you'd like to get, be more patient with others, consider others, be less insensitive, compliment others more, let stuff go, pray for people even when there's no crisis, practice listening instead of being heard, read the Bible and talk to Jesus more than anyone else," the Instagram note reads. "Be quiet and listen to the Holy Spirit more than anyone else. Be disciplined! Stop making excuses! Be better..on purpose!"

 Tina Overcame her Husband's nine infidelities in 2013 and watched God heal her brokenness in 2014. According to Tina, their story is a living proof that modern day Miracles still exist. God kept Tina and Teddy from a broken Marriage ans He did it in One year.

 

Available on Amazon & Itunes

Tina has just released a book about her spiritual struggle and Journey and she will be releasingher new album any moment from now.

I never asked you to be my Girlfriend...

    There so many people who are broken, confused, and paralyzed in their ability to trust–simply due to the confusion they’ve experienced as a result of  friends with benefits.
Why would anyone want to be in a relationship with no clear direction of where its headed?  We call ourselves single yet we engage in a relationship that sometimes feels like an addiction. A relationship filled with Lust, sex, and physical passion- masked behind the normalcy of a friendship.
We've become a generation that's comfortable with doing the "Normal" instead of the "right" things. Even though normal feels like the acceptable thing, this lack of certainty kind of relationship will cause more damage than do any good.
The last time i checked, I've been involved in more friends with benefits kind of relationships than any serious one. I actually thought it was the coolest thing ever..i mean no strings attached right? but the truth is there are actually more strings attached.
   I remember the last experience that got me running from such contract...I met Femi in a popular Lagos Club, good looking and very calm guy (well...i thought he was)..he walked up to me and offered me a bottle of champagne. We got talking inside the club and we exchanged numbers.
We often started seeing daily, got closer and graduated to getting physical  without any proper definition. I wanted more but i couldn't say anything because i thought defining whatever we were doing would mean "expecting more from Femi"...We were together for over one year until i figured he was talking to some new chic and i confronted him and he said to me "i never asked you to be my girlfriend"
   We started a relationship with "no rules, no titles, no commitment and well it ended that way.
If you ever find yourself caught in the ambiguity of a friends with benefits relationship–maybe it’s time to ask yourself who this relationship is actually benefiting?  Here are some things to consider:

1.  When you start a relationship with no boundaries–you usually stay there. One thing that defines a friends with benefits relationship is the fact that it’s lacking boundaries. The problem in relationships like this is that they don’t magically turn into healthy relationships along the way.  When you start a game with no rules–it’s really hard to go back and play by the rules.

2.  If you give it for free–they’ll never pay for it.  A huge problem in the friends with benefits culture is that you learn to give, and give, and give–with no expectation or understanding of what you’ll get in return.  You give of yourself, your body, your time, and your emotions without requiring a commitment.  When it comes to relationships, commitment is the price to pay–the more you give, the more you should receive.  We all come with a price tag–and that price tag should be set high.  But friends with benefits encourages you to give for free–and creates an atmosphere that fuels selfishness, disrespect, and zero responsibility. Healthy relationships require you to take ownership of your choices–and that always starts with clear commitment

3.  The physical has the power to affect the emotional–and skew the rational.  We’re made to bond during physical intimacy.  Whether it be a hug, a kiss, or sex–our bodies are wired to release chemicals during physical intimacy that make us feel connected to the person we’re with.  That’s a really amazing thing–but it can be a really confusing thing when your mind is telling you you’re friends–and your emotions are telling you something far different.  When you create a relationship that’s built on the physical–your emotions will always follow suit.  But the thing is–emotions can’t always be trusted.

4. If you’ve decided to be just “friends” with someone–there’s probably a good reason. physical and emotional connection will cause you to keep coming back for more–until you find yourself in an extremely unhealthy and dangerous cycle that can leave you feeling paralyzed, stuck, and unable to move forward.

No matter who you are or what you’ve been through–you’re worth far more than the pain of a one-way relationship.  You owe it to yourself to up your value, to ask for more, and to expect great things in your life and relationships. - See more at: http://truelovedates.com/friendswithbenefits/#sthash.wjwpz2jG.dpuf

No matter who you are or what you’ve been through–you’re worth far more than the pain of a one-way relationship.  You owe it to yourself to up your value, to ask for more, and to expect great things in your life and relationships. - See more at: http://truelovedates.com/friendswithbenefits/#sthash.wjwpz2jG.dpuf

 No matter who you are or what you’ve been through–you’re worth far more than the pain of a one-way relationship.  You owe it to yourself to up your value, to ask for more, and to expect great things in your life and relationships. They will still approach you, they will call you boring bu you have choice...Don't wait for any guy to tell you "he never asked you to be his girlfriend"

Friends with Benefits has zero Benefits.


inspired by:
truelovedates.com

No matter who you are or what you’ve been through–you’re worth far more than the pain of a one-way relationship.  You owe it to yourself to up your value, to ask for more, and to expect great things in your life and relationships. - See more at: http://truelovedates.com/friendswithbenefits/#sthash.wjwpz2jG.dpuf

Lust, sex, and physical passion- masked behind the normalcy of a friendship. - See more at: http://truelovedates.com/friendswithbenefits/#sthash.wjwpz2jG.dpuf

I hear from so many people who are broken, confused, and paralyzed in their ability to trust–simply due to the ambiguity and confusion they’ve experienced as a result of the friends with benefits epidemic. - See more at: http://truelovedates.com/friendswithbenefits/#sthash.wjwpz2jG.dpuf

I hear from so many people who are broken, confused, and paralyzed in their ability to trust–simply due to the ambiguity and confusion they’ve experienced as a result of the friends with benefits epidemic. - See more at: http://truelovedates.com/friendswithbenefits/#sthash.wjwpz2jG.dpu

I hear from so many people who are broken, confused, and paralyzed in their ability to trust–simply due to the ambiguity and confusion they’ve experienced as a result of the friends with benefits epidemic. - See more at: http://truelovedates.com/friendswithbenefits/#sthash.wjwpz2jG.dpuf

I hear from so many people who are broken, confused, and paralyzed in their ability to trust–simply due to the ambiguity and confusion they’ve experienced as a result of the friends with benefits epidemic. - See more at: http://truelovedates.com/friendswithbenefits/#sthash.wjwpz2jG.dpuf