21 steps to a rightful relationship

*Ask the Holyspirit to Lead you 

* The morning after: It's your walk... Win the war... Count it all Joy

* forgive no matter what. God requires us to forgive, since God is love, we can love.

* Are you in the right relationship 

-check in with the master 

- Discernment: ask God the persons purpose in your life. Move on if you have to, it is for the better and the biggest.

* Call upon the Lord

- Know the purpose of each relationship.

* Disobedience blocks blessings- be obedient to him.

* better is the end than the beginning 

- Keep a journal

- be consistent in prayers

* How do you recognize true love

- real love recognizes real love

- you have to put God first

* Power of Discernment 

- Wisdom to know what is God given 

- Godly versus Godly choices 

* Create a relationship with him

- Stay connected to the vine

- surrender to his will

*The Lord has not forgotten about you 

-Nothing is impossible 

- believe again 

- don't bury your dreams in the grave

* How bad do you want it?

- Some things come by prayer and fasting

- be anxious for nothing

* He will restore you, Only Him can.

*Don't lie to yourself 

- Don't Ignore what God is telling you.

- Trust Him

* Let go! You deserve better.

- Yes God has better.

* Start thanking Him for it

- the set time will come 

- put it into the atmosphere 

* get over bad relationships 

- Overcome rejection, Guard you heart 

- men's your broken heart, God wants the best for you 

- don't search for love in wrong places, Get into His word 

* Break the chain, unlock the chains. Move into your rightful place.

*He wants all of you

- put no one before God 

- surrender yourself to God

* Marrying the one he has for you

- how can two walk together unless they agree

- do not be unequally yoked 

- Father if this relationship is not you, please close the door.

* Ask this questions

- Are we equally yoked?

- Should I continue this path?

- Is this God's will for my life?

- Is this person willing to be obedient to Gods will in everything?

- Will this relationship bring glory to God

God loves you....

Happy Sunday

WALK AWAY..

It's hard to walk away, but you must! You have to make sure that you're not holding on out of ego. You have to be sure that you're not trying to raise an adult or change a person who is unwilling to change. It's not about you, it's about them. It's not that you're not worthy of love. It's that they aren't ready to learn how to love. You have to recognize that and be willing to walk away.
Sometimes it's the walking away part that makes a person change. If you've left before and it didn't influence them to change then the next time you leave it needs to be for good.
We waste so much unnecessary time trying to make love work. You have to be willing to admit when you didn't know love and you built on lust instead. You have to be willing to cut your losses, learn your lesson(s), and move on stronger and wiser. You can't force love and you shouldn't have to.
Love is a gift not a curse. Don't live a cursed life by trying to hold onto a lie. Evaluate your situation. If you know you've done all you can to make it work and it hasn't, let it go. Love is waiting for you but you can't attract it if you're still tied to a lie.
I pray you find the strength to leave if you know you need to leave!

source: www.TonyGaskins.com 

5 lessons I have learnt from my 5 months of being married - Funto Ibuoye

So it's been 5 months of amazing grace!! Grateful for little beginnings and celebrating every step of the way. Looking forward to the next 5 years and 50 years.
Disclaimer: I do not claim to know it all when it comes to marriage, matter of fact, I'm still in the creche class of marriage. When we are 1 year, I'd move to kindergarten but I have learnt and still learning a lot and simply sharing my lessons.

1. It all starts from the mind. Your marriage will be a reflection of the kind of things you imagine about your marriage in your mind. If you imagine a great, beautiful, fun and blissful marriage, that's what you'd get. If you imagine a marriage that's full of strife and unhappiness, that's what you get. Out of the heart flows the issues of life (and marriage). So everyday I wake up and imagine having the best marriage ever and that's what I get.

2. A Great marriage takes WORK. No, just because both of you are born again, tongue speaking, demon slaying Christians doesn't automatically translate to a great marriage. Yes, that's the foundation but you have to put in the work. Work to put down your pride. Work to get rid of every selfishness. Even the bible says faith without works is dead. So if you like imagine the best marriage, if you don't work for it, you'd only be building castles in the air. And work is not always fun. There have been times I have cried and shouted and sat up late at nights sorting our issues until I finally learnt.

3. Surround yourself with people who are older and have great marriages and also people who are like you and striving towards having great marriages. You cannot possibly go wrong when you are surrounded with like minded people. When I meet older people whose marriages I admire, I ask questions and learn a few things I can apply in my own marriage. I also keep friends, some I've known since and some I've recently met but share same values; we encourage each other, share messages on marriage, pray together, hang out together, share each others victories and challenges.

4. Just because you married as a Virgin doesn't automatically translate to having great sex. Sex like every other thing has to be learnt. It took a while and a lot of reading (and praying) to finally get it. Plus I have a sex mentor who's a "married sex expert" and tutored me almost every step of the way. Sex is very important in marriage, I could not have kept my self all the way till marriage and now get married and be dulling myself. I can only have sex with my husband and I can only have sex on earth (no sex in heaven) so the least I can do is to make the best of it. And it helps a lot when you can talk about every and anything with your spouse. So when he's not doing what I want, I open my mouth and tell him what to do. Getting married as a virgin is not an excuse to not learn how to have great sex. Sex is beautiful and God made sex... For marriage only.

5. Keep your individuality. Yes both of you are now one since you got married. But you are still YOU and your spouse is still him/herself. Just because you're ow married doesn't mean you must now do EVERYTHING together EVERY TIME. Yes pray together, but maintain your individual relationship with Christ. Yes study the word together, but still have your own personal study time. Yes hang out together, but still have your own ME time. You can only fully love someone else when you are the best version of YOU.
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Forgiving a cheating Husband....

I do a lot of reading and when i came across this post on a christian blog, i remembered the exact words of some guest speaker when we had a marriage seminar in church last year..."You need to pray for your husband when you find out he's cheating sometimes its beyond normal".

I'm not married but i trembled on my seat, deep down i know how painful it is when you find out your boyfriend is cheating on you...hmmm..let alone husband!!

The truth is Some men have been lured into the snare of the enemy and don’t know how to become untangled. Our men are faced with all types of temptation but one is becoming all too familiar, adultery. Too many women are comfortable with being a mistress, side chic and/or jump off and so our men become trapped. Please understand this post is in no way making excuses for the behavior of adultery. I would like to just shed some light that some of our men our weak in their flesh. Instead of being led by the Spirit of God, they have submitted to their flesh. Instead of exercising self-control, some of our men are just straight out of control and we have to pray them back into the fold. We must pray and some areas require fasting AND praying. Some of our men have joined themselves with a seducing spirit (Jezebel) and don’t even know it. We have to stand FIRM in the gap, praying for his mind (Ephesians 4:22-24), eyes (Psalm 101:3), heart (Proverbs 4:23), ears
(2 Timothy 4:3-4), feet (Matthew 6:13), and his entire body (1 Corinthians 3:16-17).
    

    As a single girl that was once of the world, i got to know that some of these Ladies have no chill..they go extra mile as long as they're getting financial assistance from the man. Our men have to daily fight off the temptations of this world. We must understand they cannot do it on their own. They absolutely need the Lord and our continual prayers. When is the last time you asked your husband, how can I pray for you?

The battle is even harder for wives who are unequally yoked, BUT God is greater. Wives, instead of beating your husband down PRAY. He gets torn down enough in the world , do not tear him down more when he gets home. Even with his flaws, embrace him. Please don’t ever stop praying for your honey, husband and man of God.

Forgive him if not for anything but for you.

Marriage requires a lot of sacrifice and forgiveness....that's just the test of LOVE...

Call forth the king in him. In Jesus name!







CHECK OUT THIS VIDEO OF MARYMARY ON FORGIVING A CHEATING HUSBAND....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PBRVBEnoO48




Remember, Love keeps record of no wrong...