When you find out about the other Woman..

SO you found out that he cheated. You are angry and can't wait to get your hands on that man stealer! You still feel it is her fault why your man strayed, especially since she has been trying for a long time to win him over. However, it's important that you keep your cool in order to avoid embarrassing yourself and giving her the upper hand. Below are things you should never do to get back at the other woman.

Don't get into a cat fight

This happens oh too often. In fact, it only strokes some men's egos when they see women fighting over them. So never, ever, assault the woman for your man's indiscretions. If she approaches you seeking to knock you out, walk away. If she decides to throw the first blow, you have the law on your side if you defend yourself.

Don't call her workplace

Don't invade her workspace by calling or going there to cuss her out as it could make you look desperate and insecure. Calling her office and letting everyone know she has stolen your man will look bad on both of you.

Don't call or text her

Sending text messages and calling incessantly doesn't cut it. In fact it only makes the other woman feel she is in control of the situation. She will simply have a good laugh at your expense. No amount of phone calls or text messages are going to change her mind anyway. Take the matter up with your man. Don't let her think you are a psychopath who can't let go.

Don't get too emotional.

Women handle break-ups a lot differently from men. They are more emotional. It's a good time to remember that men really don't like the drama. Lay off the melodramatics and handle the break-up with grace and dignity. It's not as easy as it sounds, but you will score more points if you stay away from her. Let both of them see that you are above them.

Finally take the matter to God!

Prayer works wonders. Always remember the devil is out there seriously trying to destroy marriages. Please ladies be sensitive!

By: Nkechi Harry Ngonadi (Mrs)

WALK AWAY..

It's hard to walk away, but you must! You have to make sure that you're not holding on out of ego. You have to be sure that you're not trying to raise an adult or change a person who is unwilling to change. It's not about you, it's about them. It's not that you're not worthy of love. It's that they aren't ready to learn how to love. You have to recognize that and be willing to walk away.
Sometimes it's the walking away part that makes a person change. If you've left before and it didn't influence them to change then the next time you leave it needs to be for good.
We waste so much unnecessary time trying to make love work. You have to be willing to admit when you didn't know love and you built on lust instead. You have to be willing to cut your losses, learn your lesson(s), and move on stronger and wiser. You can't force love and you shouldn't have to.
Love is a gift not a curse. Don't live a cursed life by trying to hold onto a lie. Evaluate your situation. If you know you've done all you can to make it work and it hasn't, let it go. Love is waiting for you but you can't attract it if you're still tied to a lie.
I pray you find the strength to leave if you know you need to leave!

source: www.TonyGaskins.com 

Adultery is a choice, not a mistake.

Scandal, Being Mary Jane, Love & Hip Hop, House Wives of (here, there and everywhere)…most of us have seen one or all of these shows before. Television programs now advertise and broadcast ADULTERY as the next best thing as slice bread. Ok, who still says that? But seriously, where is our integrity? We lack self-control. We have allowed our flesh to take full control of our decision making. We don’t consider the hurt and pain our poor choices will cause our loved ones. Adultery is a selfish act. We want what we want and will do whatever to get it and don’t care who we hurt, step on and over to get it. Adultery is a choice never a mistake.

Those shows, especially Scandal and Being Mary Jane, portray a single, successful woman, who appears to have it all but have nothing, yet find themselves having an affair with a married man. What is lacking in the life of this woman that she can be” fulfilled” in every area of her life EXCEPT her relationships? What makes a woman so desperate that she can be OK with laying with someone’s husband, knowingly without any remorse? Could it be loneliness, a desire to be needed, baggage from previous relationships, her father not being present or involved in her life, greed, what is it?

What would cause a man to broke his vows to his wife, “forsaken all others”? Could it be the excitement of the forbidden or the thought I won’t get caught so why not, my needs are not being met at home, I’m just not happy anymore? But how did we get to that unhappy place?

The sad part is the scenario doesn’t change; it’s a never ending cycle. He’s married…cheats with the other woman…decides to leave and divorce his wife…marries the other woman. My question is what makes the other woman so special that she believes he won’t cheat on her, leave and divorce her just like he did with his first wife? For the husband, it’s something in him that needs to be dealt with at the root.

Truthfully, we have gone so far away from God so much so we have totally gone our own way. We don’t consult with God about anything anymore, we just think and do. We try to hide what God already knows about us. Dear You: It’s time to be real with God so that He can deal with your stuff, your brokenness, your unforgiveness, your loneliness that has caused you to do some desperate things. God is good, able and willing. Receive Him today!

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