Recently, i almost got carried away and the devil sent me on a guilt trip for hours. I wasn't myself because i got physically intimate with someone i was attracted to. It is true that our desire for sex and sexual/physical intimacy is evidence of our need to connect. We are relational beings, who even by the nature of our physiological makeup, are created to be in connection with other human beings.
As Christians how do we handle them when we have no means of expressing them as an unmarried individual? How do we allow these desires to point us to Jesus, rather than keep us away?
I've come to realize that dealing with sexual desires is something we will face at many points in our single life but learning to deal with these desires in a healthy and God-honoring way is a discipline that will last us in a healthy married life.
if you're like me that's made a decision to honor God my body, Here are some steps as seen on truelovedates.com that we can take, as we seek to honor God with these overwhelming desires?
First, we must allow our desires to bring us in CONNECTION WITH GOD. What I mean by this is that so many times we are wired to run from God in guilt, fear, and shame when we are struggling with our sexual desires. This is the devil's plan so find whatever way you can to connect to God. Worship, pray, study the word. Do anything that would bring you back to Jesus.
Secondly, it is important we CONNECT WITH OTHERS. There are times when the gravity of our sexual desire correlates with the state of our emotional needs. We need to feel loved, accepted, and to belong. Sex in marriage offers all of those things within the context of a life-long companion. But for those who are unmarried, those very needs can begin to be met outside of a sexual relationship- in the embrace of a friend or the comforting words of a loving mentor. God can use all kinds of people to fill our deep emotional needs for connection. But we have to be aware of the connection, and then take action by engaging in meaningful non-sexual relationships.
Thirdly, we can CONNECT TO THE WORLD around us. channel your anger! I believe that we can also channel our sexual desires by focusing our time, our energy, and our efforts on things that are meaningful and purposeful. What is it that excites you? What are the things that your heart deeply connects with? What causes do you feel are most important in this world? Use your energies to make a difference in the world around you. I think Paul was referring to just that when he explained that greater than sexual connection, is the ability to serve God in a focused and undistracted way. Unlike Paul, we may not all have the life-calling of a celibacy, but we do have a calling toward meaning, toward purpose, and toward a fulfilling life. Use this time in your life to focus your energies on things that matter and the pursuit of your passions- and I believe it will bring you one step closer to getting a healthy perspective on your sexual desires.
Finally, PROTECT. Not only are we called to connect, but we are called to protect this God-given gift that we’ve been given. You can have the greatest intentions in the world, coupled with the strongest desire to do right- but if you don’t have a plan, you’re not going to be able to get to where you want to be. We need to make a practical plan that will challenge you to take the necessary steps to both being freed from sexual sin, as well as protecting yourself from sexual struggles.
May God give us the wisdom and the grace to realize that He has got our best interest in mind…and He always has. May we find the courage and strength to choose to do things His way, because His way will always be our best.
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Love,
Divnediva
How
do you handle them when you have no means of expressing them as an
unmarried individual? How do you allow them to point you to Jesus,
rather than keep you away? - See more at:
http://truelovedates.com/what-to-do-with-sexual-desires/#sthash.u9bYfxyU.dpuf
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