We long to be seen, and to be known. We long for someone to tell us that we’re important, that we mean something.
I remember many points in my life, stepping out into the world hoping for one thing: to be noticed by the opposite sex. It’s was as though their noticing would give me some sense of validity, some sense of meaning, some sense of purpose.
Often times, it’s those very longings that lead us into the arms of a relationship especially the wrong ones, because we don’t know where else to turn. It’s those very moments that create women who are hungry to know–not who they are, but what men want them to be. We need to understand that we were not created to "satisfy" but to "complete."
I empathize with women who are living their lives for the validation of the men around them. I empathize, because as a woman, there have been moments in my life that I’ve been there too....:
Sometimes, we can search so hard for love that we lose ourselves in the process. Sometimes, we can get so caught up with looking out, that we forget to look in.
More than anything, being empowered women means that we learn who we are standing alone. A woman who knows herself and understands her God-given identity has no need to be defined by the men in her life or the relationship she finds herself in, because her worth is rooted in something far more noble and far more valuable.
Maybe it’s time we stop asking what men want from us, and learn to answer the question of what God wants from us, and begin to discover who we are and what we want for ourselves.
What do you want? When you discover who you are, know what you stand for and understand the reason for your existence, you will stop trying to figure out what men want.
It’s time to contribute to a new culture, creating a trend of women who are freed to experience and engage in love: a love that starts from the inside out.
TLD..
