What makes you a wife material?

Have you ever wondered what guys are looking for in a wife? 

Or maybe you’re a man, and you’ve dated a few women, but never felt like someone was “marriage material”. I think you may find this piece helpful.

John Fileta points out three traits she found in his wife Debra that won his heart. 

Compassion: Nothing melts a man’s heart more than a woman who exudes love and compassion for others. According to John, first weekend met his wife Deb, the one thing that stuck out to him was how big her heart was. (Though he thought she was unbelievably gorgeous, which is also a plus…). She wasn’t just talking the talk, she was living it out. 

The reason compassion is so attractive to a man, is because true compassion stems directly from the heart of Christ. When God’s love fills a person, that love begins to overflow into all areas of their life and impact those around them. Compassion was something that stood out to John in his wife-to-be, because it wasn’t a love that was being given in order to receive, it was a supernatural love that was being given freely because of what Jesus had done in her life. That, in and of itself, spoke volumes to the kind of wife she would one day be.

Direction: We’re all traveling through the journey of life, and it’s our hope that one day someone will be journeying by our side. But the thing is, the person who ends up next to you has a huge impact on the direction your life will take. A key quality to being marriage material is a woman who has direction. 

Direction doesn’t necessarily mean that she is going to be a neurosurgeon or big-shot attorney, and isn’t synonymous with how much money she is going to make or how successful she will be. Direction is when a person realizes their God-given talent and purpose in life and begins to run in that direction with all their heart. When He met Deb, she was in graduate school for counseling. He knew almost nothing about the field. But as she talked about it, He could see the excitement and passion in her eyes. He has so much respect and appreciation for what she does because he's seen the huge impact she makes one life at a time. 

The important thing to note about direction is that it goes above and beyond your career. It’s about understanding what God has gifted you to do, and then doing it well: whether that be your career, your ministry, or your relationships. 

Confidence: There is nothing more attractive than a woman who is secure in who she is and knows her value. I think one of the biggest problems today facing women is an identity crisis perpetuated by the media, movies, and the entire entertainment industry. But the most beautiful thing a woman can be is wrapped up in the understanding of her intrinsic value, a God-given value that can’t be taken away. There is something undeniably attractive about that, because let’s be honest, it’s rare. All these photo-shopped images of women that we see all around us are actually so far removed from the very things that a GODLY man finds attractive. It’s my hope that more and more women would realize that they are beautiful simply because they are made in God’s image: mind, body, and spirit- and then begin to live out that beauty. 

Side note to the men: Don’t fall into the lies of pornography, or thinking that a woman is beautiful simply because she falls under the standards of society. That beauty is truly only skin deep, and won’t survive a life-time of ups and downs in marriage and raising children. 

The first time John actually met Deb, He thought she was one of the most beautiful women He had ever met and was undeniably attracted to her. But though her external beauty caught his eye, it was her internal beauty and identity in Christ that won his heart. “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised….”

To all of you men looking for a woman who is marriage material, or for the women who are trying to become it – remember this: becoming marriage material is so much more than simply trying to get married. Ultimately, it’s about becoming all that God has called you to be.

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Waiting on God?

"Seek ye first, the Kingdom of God and every other thing will be added unto you"

This is one of my favorite bible verse and it applies to this beautiful matchmade in heaven story you're about to read.

The bride "Yinka" was my course mate in Bowen University, we graduated same year. We can both pass for one of the naughty ones in our set...lol

I was happy for Yinka when i saw a picture of her engagement of instagram. ...i wasn't only happy that she was enagaged, i was happy that a Godly man found her...

There's a lot to be learnt from Yinka's story especially for the Ladies.

HER STORY...

I've had a few serious relationships and a few unserious relationships but they all ended up really bad, no matter how hard I loved or trusted someone they just ended taking me for granted and hurting me from dangerous lies, cheating, disrespecting etc they made me look down on myself sometimes... I always thought it was my fault, like there was something wrong with me or God was punishing me for something. At some point I said to myself 'No More' I was no longer interested in any kind of serious relationship, I wanted to be free. During this 'me' time I discovered a lot of things about myself, relationships and life, I also got closer to God, I discovered 'BIBLE SECRETS' , I read books started making friends with d right people. At this time there was serious pressure on me to get married or atleast bring a man home but I wasn't in a hurry because I made a deal with God that he will choose my husband and bring him to me and I stood on it and did not worry about it... One day a Christian mother in my office sent for me and asked why Richard and I don't talk and insisted we started talking. I was like 'Ahh just like that, of all the people in this office why him' but I had to obey her, she's a woman of God and an elderly person. That's how we started talking oo there was no attraction no spark nothing but according to him he knew he had to marry me but I kept saying he's not my type... May this 'not my type' put many ladies in trouble' because all d other guys that  kept hurting me were 'my type' n here I had an excellent, gentle, God fearing, hard working man that wanted to love me n I was saying 'not my type'. I was not nice to him at all but he stayed loving me n refused to go oo... I decided to get close to him n it's just been d best decision thing ever, he made me love myself even more, he inspires me, puts me 1st, he prays with n for me everyday, I am not exaggerating I've been so happy n I just started shining n glowing anyhow lol n he never tried to touch me... I have a past, I've done things I'm not proud of, I've dated horrible mean guys but God thinks I'm worthy of his grace because I turned to him n he put lines in pleasant places for me, he broke protocols for my sake. Today I am Mrs Richard Ogundare *whoop whoop*

He makes ALL things beautuful in His time....❤️

A Letter From Your Future Spouse

Hey Love,

Let me fill you in: I think about you just as much as you think about me.  It’s kind of crazy in a way, isn’t it, to think of how much we think about each other, though we haven’t even met?  Wondering where you are, who you’re with, and what you’re doing.  Wondering what you look like, what you’re like, and what you’ll become.  While you’ve been on my mind, I’ve thought about the things I’d want to say to you.  With all that I could say, there are three things that I really want you to know.

1. I’m working on me, and I pray that you’re working on you:  It’s encouraging to see the qualities and traits you are hoping that I possess.  I looked through your list just the other day and realized something incredible- those are the exact same things I hope to see in you.  It challenged me- because it’s so easy to think through all the things I want in my future mate without really taking the time to work those same things out in my life.  I will commit to taking inventory of my life, and getting myself where I need to be- I owe that to God, myself, and to you.  I want to begin the process of change and growth long before we ever meet, and I hope you’ll do the same for me.

2.  Our love will fuel us, but it can never fill us:  I’m working to be the best I can be until the day we finally meet, but if I’m honest, sometimes I get a little fearful.  I read your letters, and they are filled with so much hope and expectations.  Part of me loves to hear your dreams and desires, but the other side of me is afraid- knowing that just as you don’t have the ability to fulfill my life, I don’t have the ability to fill the voids in yours.  I want our relationship to be a place of safety, strength, and satisfaction- but I also know that there are some things our relationship will never be capable of doing.

My desire for us is that we get our expectations right, and that even during this time of being apart, we both seek to really work out our relationship with God.  In Him, all expectations, purpose, and value can be me- and then anything we have to give one another is just overflow.  This is the kind of love I want to be overflowing into every part of our relationship.

3.  We owe it to each other to choose well.  Everyone around me seems to be talking about fate.  As though finding true love is this serendipitous thing that is just going to happen to us when the timing is right.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t really believe in this kind of love.  It relies on chance, luck, and happenstance.  I don’t want our future to be determined by fate- I want it to be deliberate!

I know that there are going to be many others that come into each of our lives until we ultimately meet- but I’m asking that you hold out for me.  Set your hopes high. Wait for the one who has worked hard for you.  Wait for the one who has prayed for you, respected you, and honored you.  Don’t settle for anything less.  In this world filled with choices, we owe it to one another to choose well.  Keep your eyes open for me.  And I’ll do the same for you.

No matter where you may be in life right now, know that I am with you in my heart.  God has created a special place in my heart that was made to be fit by you.  As hard as it might be to keep from looking at your  future, I challenge you to savor your present- trusting that one day, I will be here to savor it with you.

For now, let us throw off the distractions, and keep our eyes on the moment- as we walk one step closer to God and to each other every single day.

You are in my heart, and you are in my prayers.

I’ll see you soon.

xoxo