I Broke My Abstinence Vow~ How Far Is Too Far?

I Broke My Vow Continuation....

I know a lot of you read my last post and have tagged Ade a bad character in your mind but the truth is i went foo far! The bible has warned us not to be "unequally yoked with unbelievers" Ade was a Christian but not a God chaser. 

I made up my mind to save sex until marriage but some part of me still thought it was okay to kiss,cuddle and maybe grind (allow me...). I knew purity wasn't just about not having sex but i still thought it was okay to get physical and this made me lead Ade on. I knew sleeping over at Ade's wasn't a smart move but the thought of "spicing it up a little" failed me.

As dating christian singles I wonder how far we should go sexually. 

I get that God asks us to save sex until our wedding day, but even in a dating relationship, i know sex isn’t the only line to consider.

Some of you have decided not to kiss until marriage. Others think kissing is okay. Some of you have said you will only hold hands. Others choose a different line. Some of you have realized you’ve gone too far physically only after the damage has been done. That’s why I think it’s wise to know how far you’re willing to go long before you ever have the opportunity to act. But … how far is too far?

Consider these principles checkpoints on the path to purity. If the level of your physical activity in your dating relationship allows you to stick to these principles, you have strong boundaries in place. If the level of physical contact in your relationship violates even one of these principles, you’ve probably gone too far.

Whatever 

Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”

The question you should be asking is not “How far can we go without getting into trouble?” but “What can we do to think about things that are pure and honorable?”

Can you hold hands, kiss, make out, hug and think thoughts that are pure and honorable? At some point your actions will cause your thoughts to shift away from what is pure and honorable and true and toward a desire for increased sexual contact. We can't decide where out line is after our thoughts have switched to the impure. We need to plan ahead of time how far wevthink we can go and still keep our thoughts fixed on the things of God.

     Ephesians 5:3 says, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people” (NIV).

This passage tells us not to even hint at sexual sin and we will be doing the opposite when we spend hours passionately kissing on our boyfriend’s couch leaving each other wanting more and more physical contact. If you are hinting at sex, you’re going too far!!!

If purity is your goal, make a commitment to never cause another person to want to go all the way. Always consider whether your actions might cause your boyfriend to want to become more physically involved. Filter what you see on dates (movies, videos, TV shows), what you do when you’re together, how you relate to each other, how you touch … everything you do!

Don’t Light the Fire like i did with Ade. God didn’t just list a bunch of rules for physical behavior before marriage in His Word. He did something better by giving us principles in His Word that we can apply to our relationships. I can’t tell you exactly how far is too far, but any physical contact made that leaves you wanting some more isn't PURE.

    Mark 14:38 "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak."