Emotional Sex2...(Know When To Open Up & When Not To)

Dating is such a special time.  It’s a time to really get to know someone and invest in who they are.  It’s a time to let your guard down a little at a time and begin to share the truths of who you are.

But that’s the key word.  A little…at…a…time.  When you enter into relationship, you should be at a point in your life where you are ready to be open, ready to share, and ready to communicate.  But there should always be limits to this kind of openness.  There are times to be open and share your heart–but, there are also times to withhold.

I don’t recommend sitting down at your first date and spilling every detail and secret in your life.  Relationships should be seen as a journey of building trust.  You build a little at a time.  You give a little at a time.  Lay the foundations first, then begin building the house.  Be real, be genuine, and be honest- but never without the anchor of boundaries and the weight of wisdom.

Love...

Emotional sex 1..."play together not pray together"

This might sound contradictory to your Christian beliefs. It is true that prayer is such an important part of any relationship. While this sounds well and good…in my opinion, i feel it’s actually a really dangerous road to travel at such early stages in a relationship.

I've heard about so many couples who started their relationship by investing time in deep spiritual prayer with one another and spending time in God’s word together but there's just something about it that doesn't seem acceptable to me.

Seeking the heart of God and pouring out your heart and soul to Him through prayer is one of the most emotionally vulnerable places you will ever be.  It’s essentially like being spiritually naked because before God, you hide nothing emotionally.

It’s good to pray about your relationship and to seek God’s voice, but WAIT to seek it together. In the early stages of dating, seek to pursue God as an individual before allowing your relationship with Him to become a trio prematurely by including your significant other.  There will be a day for deep and intimate spiritual unity…but it’s not now.

Datung relationship in it’s early stages is meant to be a time of getting to know each other, and learning all the superficial things you can know before taking it to the next level. Use this season for just that!  Don’t go too deep too fast, because the emotional intimacy that comes with deep shared moments like this can actually pull you in far deeper than you were ever meant to go, and in the end, leave you with a broken heart…and a broken spirit.

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@iamdivinediva1